Ramadhan month

Tonight the trio gang is going for a berbuka puasa at the Royale Damansara Hotel @ The Curve. Niki is gonna be wearing her baju kurung ao gonna catch a lot of pix of the "Aminah".

Having light lunch now, in anticipation of tonight's feast!

One step to Independence

Today Niki is going on her first excursion with her school mates, which also marks the first without her "sometimes overly-protective" parents accompanying her. I actually drove by her school again before going to the office to see whether I can catch a glimpse of her boarding the bus.. but alas I think I was a wee bit late.. which leads me to this post.

I'm sure she'll enjoy the outing and she's always had a bit of the independent streak in her. Just goes to show that my baby is indeed growing up .. and maybe a bit too fast for us.. like I said in one of my past posts perhaps it's not her who's having issues ..it's us.

The below article well is quite enlightening.. read on.

Yikes, it just rained here .. I hope they have umbrellas with them so that the can safely shade the kids ....

A Child's Independence, the Third Year

The first half of the third year may remain difficult for you and your child as far as issues of control and dependence are concerned. Although your child's language and self-care skills are more advanced, in some ways your child continues to feel like a tightrope walker, occasionally teetering with uncertainty over what she can and cannot do. Try to recognize your child's need for independence. By promoting independence along with emotional support, parents can help their children through this stage. An extra cuddle or more lavish praise for good behavior helps to counteract some of the normal negative behavior.

Control and Discipline

As your child grows older there are more activities you can do together, but also more potential conflicts.One management technique that works quite well with toddlers is the use of praise. To help your child develop a positive self-image, you should encourage and delight in your child's new accomplishments and achievements. Praise ("That's good! I like that block tower."), hugs, and kisses are important ingredients in promoting a good self-image. At two and three years of age, a child's self-esteem-how she feels about herself-often reflects her perception of her parents' opinions of her. Interest in and enjoyment of your child's play set the tone for a healthy self-concept.One of the most difficult jobs parents have is setting reasonable limits for their children. Letting your child know what's expected, what's tolerable, and what's unacceptable is a long-term process that continues well into the teenage years.

As early as in the first year, for example, you set some limits by not letting your child stick her fingers into the electrical outlets.You can defuse some potential conflicts by rearranging the environment so you don't have to worry about your child's hurting herself, breaking your valuable vase, or eating a poisonous plant.

Childproofing the major living quarters in your house allows your child to safely explore many interesting and different objects.Of course, changing the environment does not take care of those times when a direct confrontation is necessary. It helps to quickly and adeptly address the situation. Tell your child what you don't like about what she is doing. Give her a simple reason why, for example, pulling the tail on the cat hurts the cat.

Parents don't need to use more than one or two sentences of explanation. Ask the child to stop. If that doesn't work, put the child on a chair for a few minutes either in the same room with you or in a different room for a time-out. After the allotted time has elapsed, you can then talk about what happened.Later in the day, but not immediately afterward, be sure to let your child know you still love her by giving her a hug and a kiss.

On a particularly bad day, you may even want to engage her in a very special time just for the two of you. The earlier you begin to set aside a special chair or place to be used for thinking about unacceptable behavior, the sooner your child learns that some behaviors are just not acceptable.In the early years, parents take on the roles of care-giver, teacher, and playmate. Creating an emotionally supportive environment is essential for your child to become independent yet aware of her parents' love and acceptance.

On occasion, behavioral extremes are acceptable for two year olds. As a regular pattern, however, the child who is always out of control or overly compliant is telling you something. These are warning signals that suggest you should take a good, hard look at your disciplining techniques. Ask yourself: Are my methods so loose that the boundaries of acceptable and unacceptable behaviors are unclear? Am I so rigid in setting limits that my child is afraid to upset me by resisting my controls? Am I providing enough time for relaxed activities and play with my child?

Learning how to discipline a child takes time and practice.By the end of the third year, with increased growth, maturity, and confidence, your child becomes willing to relinquish some of her insistence on being independent. She may even give up some of her executive independence ("I want to do it myself!") for your love and affection. She obtains great pleasure from praise and attention.Her participation in such body management activities as feeding, toilet training, and dressing becomes a matter of routine. Although many three-year-old children continue to have high activity levels, their activity begins to be more directed, with a far less frenetic quality.The secure three year old may allow you to help her set limits.

This new stage has been called the stage of volitional dependence because the child's needs can now be brought under her control. Your child is less impulsive and more manageable; she understands an occasional explanation of rules -- and actually follows the rules, too. For example, when you are working in one room, you may no longer have to worry about leaving your child to play in another, but instead can trust her not to misbehave.

Feelings and Emotions

Of particular importance, but sometimes overlooked, is talking to your children about how they feel.

By the age of three, children experience a wide range of emotions: They feel afraid, mad, sad, and glad. While children may not have exactly the same meanings for these feelings that adults do, children can learn to label and identify good and bad feelings. Don't underestimate their capacity for understanding emotions and feelings.Parents can help their children develop a language for expressing and dealing with feelings by giving the feelings names. While doing so, parents have a responsibility to manage their own feelings to help children deal with theirs. Sometimes, our own childhood experiences creep into how we handle emotions with our children.

All of us have trouble with some feelings. For instance, difficulties with such feelings as anger and aggression may spill into our parenting. If we cannot tolerate angry feelings, we might try to prevent our children from displaying anger by saying "That's no reason to be angry!" when in fact a child may have good reason to be angry. Through the use of play, you can provide children with some emotional avenues for anger, fear, and anxiety.

Self-Concept

Between their second and third birthdays, most children become fairly competent language users.

They readily use the personal pronouns "I," "me," and "mine," particularly to defend ownership of their toys and possessions. They have great difficulty letting anyone else play with something that is theirs.Around this time, your toddler can refer to himself by his own name. Sometimes, when playing with dolls or superheroes, your toddler may reenact earlier events. He may assign different roles to the dolls.

If you sit down and play directly with your toddler, you can get a glimpse of the inner workings of his mind. This glimpse may be both delightful and unnerving, since you may observe firsthand how your child views your parenting style. Many parents have heard their sweet little boy harshly send his favorite stuffed animal to his room because it didn't behave.

As your child becomes more independent, she will feel more comfortable being on her own.By three years of age, your child has a good sense of "me" and "you" and of "self" versus "nonself." With better cognitive capacities and a wider repertoire of experiences, the three year old has internalized memories of the significant people in his life -- his parents. As his sense of self grows, a child's personality represents more of what he will be like as he grows older. He readily displays his preferences and dislikes in how he interacts with the world; for example, some children already prefer very physical activities, while others choose quiet, sedentary play.

Aggression and Fighting.

Fighting usually centers on wanting to have a toy someone else has. Aggression is a normal part of growing up and may be related to our survival instincts. Most children are fairly aggressive when defending their belongings and themselves.There are no easy answers for how to handle excessive aggression. But it certainly doesn't make sense to the child or to the parent to handle aggression with aggression. Imagine this scenario: Two sisters are fighting over a toy. One parent comes in, yells at them to stop fighting, and hits one of them because the child won't give the toy back. What does this teach the children? There's quite a mixed message here -- it's all right to fight and to hit but only if you are bigger and more powerful than your adversary.Parental handling does influence how aggressive a child will be.

Children in families where physical violence, such as beating (as opposed to a mild slap on the wrist or a gentle spank on the bottom), hitting, or spanking, is used as punishment generally turn out to be more aggressive than other children. The least aggressive children come from families that are nonpunitive, nonpermissive, and nonrejecting. The parents in such families are consistent in their handling of aggression. They don't use harsh physical punishment or unnecessarily harsh language. They set firm and clear limits about what they expect of their children, and they are accepting of their children.

Consistency is important in whatever intervention technique you use to deal with your child's aggression. A useful technique is to remove the child from the fight and isolate her for a few minutes. Quick handling of the situation, before the fighting gets out of hand, helps. Once your two year old can talk, ask her to talk about how she feels or what she wants. Doing so helps her learn to express herself verbally instead of physically.

Sometimes, providing your child with an outlet for her pent-up energy helps reduce the level of her aggression. Just as with adults, active physical exercise helps release the tension and reduce the level of stress. Imaginative play also helps her work through aggressive tendencies. Parents can capitalize on the child's imagination to help work out conflicts.ImaginationIt is especially wondrous and exciting to watch imagination develop in your child. Through the windows of your child's play and the talking he does to himself, the pictures he draws, and the stories he tells, you can actually follow your child, the little movie director, as he casts a set of characters into their various roles.

Fantasy develops along with your child's more sophisticated knowledge of the world, although he cannot yet totally differentiate fantasy from reality.Some children have such great imaginations that they tell the most unbelievable stories -- and sometimes get in trouble for doing so. Many children have imaginary friends. Sometimes these creations become scapegoats for the child's own behavior.

When the child does something wrong, he may say the imaginary friend was actually the culprit. Usually, the presence of an imaginary friend is just a sign of a healthy, imaginative child. But imaginary friends can become too powerful: They can interfere with your child's ability to accept responsibility, their presence can exclude other friends, and they can do all your child's talking.

Luckily, this doesn't happen very often. If you're concerned about your child's imaginary companion, you may want to consult a professional.TelevisionPresidential commissions have confirmed the profound effects of excessive television violence on children's aggressive behavior. These reports indicate that a steady diet of violent television programming is related to an increase in children's fighting. If you do not want to have a physically aggressive child, you may consider monitoring your child's television viewing habits.

One way to do this is to count the number of aggressive acts in your child's Saturday morning cartoons. Then you can decide if you would like her to continue to watch them.Cartoon-watching also seems to negatively impact children's activity levels. While they sit and stare at the television set, they appear zombie-like: Afterward, these same children act overexcited, running helter-skelter with little direction or content in their play. In all likelihood, a steady diet of superheroes and monsters can have negative consequences. Also, because two and three year olds are unable to distinguish between fantasy and reality, the evil warriors and monsters may seem real to them, and the characters in some of these daytime shows can come back to haunt toddlers at nighttime, manifesting as nightmares or fear of the dark. To make matters worse, it is often difficult to tell where the cartoons end and the commercials begin.

However, television, in moderation, can be used for positive ends as well. Good educational programs, such as Sesame Street and Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood, have much to teach your toddler. But always remember that too much television viewing, even of high-quality programs, can lead to an unhealthy, sedentary lifestyle. And even the best programs can't match the benefits of real experiences with real people.Multiple

Attachments

By three years of age, your child is likely to have a number of relationships with people other than his parents. He may have a favorite babysitter or just a good friend.

He prefers to play with children his own age rather than playing with you, although he still enjoys and needs you. He and his friends can spend a long time at play without any fighting and with some sharing of toys.As your child's world expands -- for example, when he goes to a child care center or preschool -- the influences on your child's self-esteem also include new people's attitudes toward him. It's essential for you to provide him with the security he needs so he can go out and explore his surroundings.While your child may be quite ready to go off to preschool, once in a while he may slip back to his less-sure former self and not want to leave your side.

These are normal separation reactions. His going to preschool is a big emotional step for both of you.Here is an example of a three year old boy we knew. It was the first week of preschool. Every day the boy's mother walked him to the classroom, gave him a hug and a kiss, and said goodbye. Each time, the boy cried uncontrollably, refusing to take his jacket off for the whole day. Knowingly, the teachers respected the child's need to hold onto his jacket. For this child, removing his jacket meant that he was going to stay at this place without his mother. In a way, he was unsure that he was ready for all this independence.

Both mother and child benefitted from the teachers' warm assurance that everything would be all right. Gradually, the teachers enticed the child into the fun the others were having.Some preschools are quite aware of children's difficulties with separation and build this into their programs by slowly introducing children into the classroom. For some children, preschool is the first time they are on their own. It is, on the one hand, an obvious milestone, but on the other hand, it is just one of the many steps that take your child gradually toward independence.As a newborn your child is completely dependent on you for everything from food to clothes to companionship.

As your child grows physically, he also grows mentally and becomes more aware of himself and the people around him. It can sometimes be painful and sometimes joyous, but every child matures and becomes more independent. While no two children are alike, you now have a general idea of what you can expect during this tumultuous time.

Our Schoolkid

Here's Niki this morning, told her to pose and she did the cow pose in Old MacDonald, and she's going Moo-moo here, Moo-moo there.. and yeah that her bike which her Ta-ta bought her about a month back.

We bummed!

We bummed around last weekend not doing anything much at all.

Why? Because there's no need to have your weekend clogged with activities that's why.

Anyways finally, we took Niki to Summit to go watch Ratatouille .. she's been asking for so long but before that Vicky had to go put out a fire (literally!!) a few doors from ours coz the grass and bushes caught fire. No one's living there and to top it off its was really hot and dry on Sat, so I guess it caught fire, pretty scary coz heavy smoke was billowing all over the place, and Vicky went to put out the fire with a neighbour's reaaalllly long hose whilst I called the Fire Dept. Thank God they came just in time and hosed everything down.

Then all of us scamperred as fast as we can out the door and were on our way to Summit for the 2.30pm show. But before that we went and tried Hartz Chicken Buffet and lots of stuffs in the buffet line happened to be chicken! We were all famished especially Vicky the Fireman. And being the hot blooded man that he is, he wants chicken! And lo and behold Hartz Chicken just happened to just opened their doors there. They're not really cheap coz, for us adults it was like RM18.90 per pax and for the chipmunk it's RM5.25 (kids below 3ft eat for RM5.25) and they've got a wall measurement tape there just in case. Well, I measured the girl and she's now all of 2' 7"!! Small in stature perhaps but big on utter adorability, that one! So we (ahem!) maybe I only lar stuffed our faces with the glorious amount of food available .. they got me at the fizzy fountain actually.. I love fizzy fountains, sue me I'm easily contented. While Vicky and Niki tucked in the variety of chicken they had there, grilled chicken, fried chicken, casserole chicken, and etc. Bet we'll be seeing chicken for a couple of days lar.

Then we window shopped and walked abit aimlessly so that the lunch we had could digest abit before heading upstairs to GSC for the show. Coz it was puasa time, there was no lines at all..which is such a huge relief!

Here's some pix that says it all!

Sunday was movie marathon say watch The Invisible (which was not bad for a teeny bopper slash rebellious anger kind) and Whisper (ala The Omen but with the slightly dishevelled but still dishy Josh Holloway). Had dinner at home coz Niki's daddy whipped up his special Mushroom Alfredo sauce with Penne pasta, which was beyond yum!

So that was the weekend that was, which was us bumming! ... and it was good.. :-)

Old MacDonald..

Niki : Nearly all of 2 months

Mommy, Daddy, Ammu and the little chipper practiced all together for Niki's forthcoming concert in October. Me with my very hoarse voice sang Old MacDonald while the chipper danced. There is gonna be 4 farm animals on the Old MacDonald farm which are the cat, the duck, the cow and the hen. And so we danced and practiced till 10.30pm. Needless to say the babe was pooped and fell asleep almost immediately.

And it feels like only yesterday my baby was sleeping in her buaian.

Swoosh..

Not as in Nike, more in like wow it's Friday already whatever happened to Monday, Tuesday....

As so it goes without saying that a week has gone by..

Next week's agenda .. Need to make more moolah to continue spending moolah.
Ah yes, grown up stuffs la, with great power to grow sideways comes great responsibilities.
I have no idea what I’m talking about, must be my meds talking.

Also this weekend, I have a mission!
My mission is to finally, finally get the complete set of the HP books. Viva la Potterheads!!!

And yup guess who jumped on the facebook wagon..!!??!! ok gonna log in there to update as well.

My Little Dreamer

I woke Niki up for school this morning at 7.30am; and had to get her ready by 8.15am so that she be at school at 8.30am. Why am I stressing about the time?? Coz already got reminders from her teacher to send her to school early. So I've got to bulk up or face the wrath of Niki's pre-school teachers! So I choose to be on time instead.

I woke the little poppet, by telling her to wake up coz she's got concert practice to which she replied "teacher told Niki to stop dreaming" .. So my kid is a dreamer and will zone off when she's on stage, I expressed my worry to her daddy who had this simple solution ... the kid is not even three yet, so let's not drill or bog her down with rules and whatnot..instead let her enjoy her 15 minute of fame her way..

I thought to myself, on how right this sounds, I am becoming one of those pushy parents whom I use to cringe whenever I see them reprimanding their kids in public for not performing up to par..but what is the par? Why is there a par, and there's certainly no need to measure our kids against what we think is right or trying to relive our childhood through our children, that's just so wrong. So I made a silent promise to myself to not conform to the peer pressure of over pushing our kids. So what if she zone out, according to her dad ..the least we could do is catch the footage on video and use it to embarass her once she's all grown up.. now that sounds like fun!

Under the weather

It's official, all three of the Kumars has been strucked down with the dreaded flu bug. It's sniffles, and hankies galore. On a positive for me at least is that I can abstain from eating for a bit and hopefully the extra pounds can just drop miraculously. Yeah, wishful thinking but what's life without hope as quoted by Charlize Theron in Aeon Flux!

Friday, my dears!

My munchkin lurves bubbles

Today is Friday, I've got tons to do in the office before I even can think of the weekend.

And puasa has just started which means ... ramadhan bazaar..yay .. food!!!!

Gonna go check out our KK bazaar in the evening, without the munchkin of course. Gonna go pick her only after .. too crowded, small stuff might get lost ..

Yum..omg .. thinking about dinner when I've just had my breakfast .. ishh.. terrible. Ok then will think about it at 5.45pm then .. teeheehee..

So amigos and amigas .. have a fab weekend, ok!!!

The Kumars at No.9

Vicky's Celeb Look-a-likes

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Celebs that look like me

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Bangun Pagi ditty

Here's Niki singing for her mom and pop .. Bangun Pagi .. we especially like the part where she goes makan roti, minum susu with its accompanying actions, had us in stitches!!

The Many Faces of Niki

Mysterious, Shocked, Overwhelmed and Smiley -- the many, many faces of Niki.

Niki's First Salon Visit

Sunday the 9th marked Niki's first haircut ever at a salon, all this while we've been DIY-ing her hair, and we think a real cut is very much due. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree I guess and loved the salon experience and requested for a "princess cut" .. priceless I tell you that girl. Her hairstylist's name is Apple.

The Merdeka Lantern festival @ Niki's Kindy

Niki and her leet classmates patrioticly waving the jalur gemilang, our Niki was more than patriotic I guess, with tears streaming down her cheeks as they sang Jalur Gemilang

Niki's bff, Bak Shun Ling and Nicholas Lim

Niki with her cuz

Here's us at the Merdeka Lantern Festival party organized by Niki's kindy. See the top pic * points up* That's me, Niki and her classmate Nicholas.

Here's more photos as the night progressed on, teeheehee, you can see Niki crying in on of the pix, she very the tension already :-)

Then all the kids and the kiddults went for a walk around the block with litted lanterns! Niki's Amama, her fave Ammu-Ka, Lavin, Aunty Barbara and Mohan PPpa joined us there as well.

Today's Friday!

Ah, Friday at last.

Tonight is Niki's Lantern/Merdeka party at her school, it's 3pm now and raining kitties and puppies. Hopefully the rain would've eased up by then. *fingers & toes crossed*

Got her cakes, jellies before lunch just now and ordered the fuits which we will pick up a bit later. Tucked the little girl for her afternoon nap and cam right back to the office.

Will rush off later coz the shindig starts at 7pm this evening. Will update with photos later.

Have a good weekend, y'all!

The day before..

Niki's school is organizing a Merdeka/Lantern festival shindig tomorrow. There's gonna be marching, singing, and a whollotta food & merry making tomorrow evening. Can't wait to see the girl march and perform in her first school recital!! So the "jackoon-la" her parents :-) We've been waiting with abated breath for the past one month.

And next month is her school concert .. wooppeee!

Our mischevious Niki

Niki's class teacher told me that the class was too quiet the whole of last week when she was absent from school when I went to pick her up last evening *raises eyebrow* .. hhhmmm .. and she added that no one called her "oh .. teacher, oh my teacher" since Niki is the only
one who calls her like that .. such a drama queen I tell you. And I don't mean the teacher .. I mean the tot!

Niki Sings Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star

I had the pre-schooler sing me Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star before I tucked her in for bed last night. ps. Must get her a haircut coz her hair's quite long already.
Enjoy the video!

The weekend before..

salsa!

mugshots

"gene simmons" shots

Getting back to school.

Niki was at home the whole of last week due to the flu bug. Actually she was all better by Saturday but we only took her out yesterday. Went to Burger King's .. actually Nix wanted to go shopping but her parents wanted to go eating, since it was 2 vs 1 we went with the majority vote heeheehee..

Then we went home and fooled around with the camera before watching a movie.

Well here's the bunch of them.

I just finished reading Ranee's blog, and how Dhiren's going to school already etc..and Nee, I hear you, and over here it's pretty that much paperwork to go thru as well... there's so many that I asked the principal to pass it over the weekend so that I can slowly go thru 'em and write it all down, since "the computerization era" I haven't actually done much real writing so my hand were super sakit once I finished all of it!

This morning, sent Niki off to school, she was pretty lazy after one week of home schooling, so thank God the principal was there to take her into her class *phew*

So back to the grind, the boss is coming in soon so better get my a** back to work!

Have a wonderful Monday y'all!